Carrie’s Birth Story

carrie_babyrobynDear Marina, Ingrid and Gowri,

I have been meaning to write this card for the last three months as I wanted to say the biggest THANK YOU I could ever say to you three wonderful women.

Gowri, the visualisation and relaxation/hypnotherapy techniques you introduced in the first four weeks of the class were invaluable and I still use them today for various situations.

Marina, the weekly reading of birth rehearsal was just so powerful. I heard your voice the whole way through my labour and it made me feel so calm, relaxed and in control.

Ingrid, your classes were the best yoga classes in the world, they were informative, fun, helpful, interesting, warm and engaging. Through them I gained confidence in myself, my body and my baby and for this I cannot thank you enough.

Before I got pregnant, I always thought that I would opt for an elective c-section as I had heard so many horror stories about child birth. But due to the three of you and your combined efforts that fear was replaced with excitement and anticipation and, as a result, I was able to have a water birth with no intervention at all. I feel very proud of myself and know that I have the three of you to thank. Any ladies who partake in your course are the luckiest of them all.

I hope the NHS continues to offer your fantastic services and I know I would recommend it in a heartbeat. I hope I can be part of your classes again in a few years!

Thank you, thank you, thank you.

Carrie and little Robyn Somoma
February 2017

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H. C.’s Birth Story

Hi Gowri,
I had a healthy baby girl at home on June 14th, went into labor on the 13th June 2016 (my due date) and she was born just after midnight. It was a wonderful and completely gentle birth. So gentle that she was fast asleep when she came out. Thank you so much for your help along the way, it was a dream pregnancy and birth. She weighed 7 pounds 3 ounces . I’m on cloud nine with my baby girl, she’s even an amazing sleeper. I have to wake her at 3am to feed otherwise she’s stays asleep.
Please know that you have a place to stay in Venice Beach if you come out to LA. I would love to introduce you to my midwives and other wonderful birth specialists that I’ve met along the way. You should really bring the gentle birth method here, moms would love it.
Lots of love
H. C.

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Mother from California

Dear Gowri – I gave birth to my daughter on February 24, 2016. Obviously my husband and I are in bliss with our newborn! I wanted to tell you Gowri how grateful I am for your guidance during my pregnancy, and how important your teachings have been to me.
The biggest changes that I made after speaking with you and reading your book were dietary. Cutting out gluten and sugar has been wonderful. Taking additional supplements during my pregnancy was also fantastic for me. I made other dietary changes as well, like cutting out rice and rice products as much as possible, and have had no caffeine for about a year now.
I gave birth at home in a birthing tub to a big baby—8lbs 15 oz. Only my husband, the midwife, and her assistant were present. I had contractions all night but I went into active labor around 6:30 AM and my daughter was born at 12:48 PM. I pushed for less than one hour, which was half the time my midwife expected for a first time mom. I chose to stay at home in my bedroom with the baby for 6 weeks. Even the paediatrician came to my home so I wouldn’t have to take the baby into the office. I feel very good!

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Terry’s Birth Story

TerryLoongJust to let you know my baby has arrived earlier than expected …. About 3 weeks earlier Smiling face with smiling eyes.

My mucous plug came away last Tuesday and by Thursday morning, I started to feel early contractions which intensified throughout the day and by 5:30pm, I was in full blown active labour. By the time we got to the hospital at 7pm, I was fully dilated and ready to have the baby. They didn’t have time to move me to another room so I delivered in the triage room.

I was grateful for a very skilled midwife come on duty when I arrived (18 years experience) and she really supported me through correct breathing technique so I directed my energy properly to pushing my baby out, correct positioning to minimise tear and baby was delivered naturally at 8:26pm on Thursday 21st April 2016 weighing 2.56kg.

I only had Entonox which mainly helped regulate my breathing and my husband Kurt was a rock and a great supporter through this whole experience.

The preparation I did with Gowri, Gail and the team definitely helped me with a quick labour and delivery with minimal complications.

I only had a small 1st degree tear which was sutured and I lost only 250ml of blood despite my fibroids.

I stayed overnight in the hospital – grateful we managed to get our own room but the toilet was a walk away which was fine too so it encouraged me to move a little and prevent any clots. I did have trouble passing water at the beginning which they wanted to pass a catheter in my bladder which I refused and luckily after 3 hours of discomfort, I was passing urine about every hour.

Next day, I got Annette to come in to help me with the breast feeding and I was discharged at 4pm the following day.

Baby and mummy recovering at home at the moment – doing the 30 day confinement period at home according to Chinese Culture mixed in with a little Gentle Birth 1st year recovery philosophies Smiling face with smiling eyes. The Chinese way forbid a woman to shower or wash their hair for 30 days so I’m just doing wipe downs and cleaning my bottom area every day.

Baby feeding very well and passing good poos and wet nappies. Exclusively breast feeding and breast seems to be producing good amounts of milk.

Vagina area slowly healing but perineum still sore. Have a 3rd degree haemorrhoid from the delivery which I hope will settle in time. Just using Anusol to try to shrink it. Cleaning the area with salt solutions and witchhazel.

Grateful my husband works from home so he’s been a real support and my mother-in-law has been cooking food for us and getting herbs in to make me detox teas and strengthening soups.

Also, I only finished my last day in clinic the Friday before so essentially I only had 1 week of maternity leave before Matthew came instead of 4 which I had planned. And even then, I still feel strong in myself, I’m recovering quickly – able to sit, squat and cross my legs on day 4 post delivery. The preparation definitely paid off.

So all in all …. All good progress and great outcome!!

Terry Loong

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Sofia’s Birth Story

My dearest Gowri,
I wanted to let you know that on Saturday, 5th March, I gave birth to this adorable baby girl who we have called Ophelia. I can’t thank you enough for all the preparation I had for the birth, it really was amazing. I got to hospital already 8cm dilated and then resorted to the walking epidural, pushed for 35 mins and she was out in no time with minimal tear!! She came to the world at 38 weeks but weighing 7.9 pounds, 51cm long and looking perfect! I am certain this outcome had A LOT to do with your programme and I am so grateful to have followed it all throughout my pregnancy. It was a blissful pregnancy and I couldn’t have asked for anything better. I have now received the Gentle Birth Method – the first year book and will start reading that!!!!!
Thank you so much.
Lots of love
Sofia Corrêa de Sá Stratton

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Alexa’s Birth Story

I am so pleased that we decided to follow The Gentle Birth Method programme as it gave my husband and I the confidence in having a natural birth. Dr Gowri Motha’s Self-Hypnosis classes were phenomenal in allowing us to visualise the actual birth in the calmest way possible, and when it came to the day of our sons birth, this technique allowed me to deliver with total focus. On the day I went into labour, I had been practicing many of Francois Freedman’s Pregnancy Yoga techniques at home that I had learnt in her excellent classes I had attended in London. Being a Yoga Teacher myself I was deeply grateful to learn from such a leading light in our industry, and she has further inspired me to learn more about teaching pregnancy yoga as a specialist subject. In the end, I delivered our beautiful baby boy in the hospital in less than five hours, with no pain relief whatsoever, and no gas and air. Thank you so much to the whole team of women who work for The Gentle Birth Programme and especially to Kaisa who assisted us on the day itself with amazing massage, reflexology and homeopathic remedies.

Alexa Kho-Hinkson

Jaspreet’s Birth Story

Having moved to the US from the UK I was unfamiliar with the medical system here, so it came as quite a shock that it is so image-5ad9ceff6223ce101267bc7c60420d1aab8937a54704c89294e3a38733632f0d-Vintrusive and doctor-led. I was told that as I had gestational diabetes I would have to be induced in the 39th week, regardless of the baby’s size or condition. As there were no indications of any problems with the baby or me in the twice-weekly ultrasounds I was made to have from 28 weeks onwards, I refused induction and went into labour naturally one day after my baby’s due date.

My labour was quite long at 26.5 hours, with 14.5 hours of active labour. When we arrived at the hospital after 4 hours of active labour I was 6cm dilated, and only dilated an additional 1cm in 6 hours. I was exhausted and decided to take an epidural. I delivered a healthy baby girl vaginally with only a minor laceration, delivered the placenta within 5 minutes and had no need for Pitocin to contract my uterus – something I was also told I must have!

We were amazed at how alert Isha was as soon as she was born. We did immediate skin-to-skin and she breastfed within a couple of minutes.

I cannot thank you enough for your advice over the course of my pregnancy. I have no doubt in my mind that following the Gentle Birth Method is the reason why I had such a wonderful and comfortable pregnancy, as well as a relatively easy delivery. I also image-eae486e9488f8d579a6c8eafd3f86ce30397a33a16b8a53871b347ceee5e8fbc-Vthink it is the reason why Isha is so alert and calm! She is only a week old but for the last couple of nights has only woken me once for a feed. She is breastfeeding really well and sleeps soundly in between. She also has amazing neck support! Our baby nurse is astonished at how much control she already has. She listens very intently when spoken to and already follows voices around the room!

I have already lost most of my pregnancy weight and am feeling almost back to normal. I will definitely be following the method for my future pregnancies, and have been telling all of my friends about it, pregnant or not!

Thank you from the bottom of my heart, I couldn’t have done it without you and Nida for support and guidance.

Sally van Kooten’s Birth Story

I was introduced to the Gentle Birth Method by a friend who passed on the book to me. I gave birth to my beautiful daughter 12 days ago having used the book and the accompanying reflexology DVD and yoga DVD throughout my pregnancy. My husband has become an expert in reflexology overe the past 9 months!

I am an expat living in Switzerland and decided to follow the Gentle Birth Method as my guide and birth preparation method. The local antinatal classes are all in French and as I don’t speak the language sufficiently opted with my husband to prepare for the birth of our daughter together using the Gentle Birth Method.flowers

I am really grateful for the Gentle Birth Method as I had a 3.5 hour labour and delivered my first born in a birthing pool with no medication and no tearing. I have also managed to have no stretch marks. The midwife even asked how I had managed such calm and beautiful birth. I truely believe that the visulisation, breathing and yoga allowed my daughter to be born so calmly. She is an extremely content little girl and is amazingly calm.

Unfortunately I had a retained placenta and had to have emergency surgery after the birth. However I am extremely happy to have brought Harriet safely into the world and now have lovely memories of her birth.

Thank you for making it possible to follow the Gentle Birth Method from your book. I cannot recommend this method high enough and now do so to my pregnant friends.

Best wishes from a very happy Mum.

Sally van Kooten

Astrid Camprubí ‘s Birth Story

An inspiring story sent by one of Gentle Birth Method Mom

Seven years ago when I was expecting my first boy, a good friend recommended me a “magical” book The Gentle Birth Method Book.

 Thanks God I followed her advised, I ordered the book by Internet and I followed all exercises from week 20. From Spain it is hard to follow some proposals due to lack of practitioners or believers of this kind of methods.

Moreover, it is impossible to find herbal tea, perineal oil or some basic ingredients of the diet. Despite all of this I deeply believed in your method and I managed my labor moment as I always dream. I had a nice and comfortable expecting period without any setback.

 I broke my waters at 5.30 am so I had to go to the hospital. Once I arrived the doctor told me to be prepared for a cesarean, she didn’t felt I was able to do it. My waters were broken but I wasn’t suffering any contraction. I asked for a calm room, some space to practice my exercises and I asked the doctor how much time I had to reach how many centimeters dilatation. She answered “in less than 4 hours you should bé 7cm at least”. I was completely convinced it was possible. After 4 hours of meditations exercises, of talking with my baby  and so on I reached the goal and they started believing me. They decided to give me more time without giving me any medical help (oxcitocine, drugs)

So after 8 hours Noah was born. It took me just 20 min of pushing and it was completely natural and gentle.

 After this amazing experience I bought this book for all my friends and started recommending to use this method. I  encourage my friends to bet for a natural and gentle birth.

Thank you very much for your time and your incredible experience. Step by step we all together hopefully will change the praxis of some health care institutions of european countries inspired by you.

 

Astrid Camprubi Hernández

Barcelona

Z’s Birth Story

ZitaNevile1I have been blessed to have two angels. The contrasting ways they arrived in our world does nothing to differentiate the love I have for them. They have set me on my life’s journey as a woman and mother. But the differing ways they arrived I think shows the brilliant effectiveness of the Gentle Birth Method.

Our son Wolfie was born on 1.1.11 by emergency C-section after a difficult 18-hour labor. The scan I had at 40 weeks + 4 showed that he was not fully engaged in my pelvis. In labor the midwife told me he was back-to-back with me and I “wouldn’t make it” without pain relief. After an epidural and a doomed attempt to drag Wolfie out using ventouse, he arrived by way of the ‘sunroof’. I received a letter explaining that this was necessary as Wolfie was OP. I was hot and shaking so ferociously I could not hold my newborn son for the first few hours after he arrived let alone feed him. I ran on co-dydramol for the first few days and adrenaline for the next few weeks. I battled demand-led breast-feeding and miraculously at 12 weeks he slept 7-7. Conversely, I became an insomniac for the subsequent months, reeling from the shocking change of life and the way it had come about. I did not revisit these emotions again until I became pregnant again 2 years later.
Isis was born on 7.7.13. Gowri extolls the virtues of (birth) preparation. I was determined to be physically and emotionally prepared for this birth. My obstetrician agreed that I had presented with “extremely favorable birthing condition” for the last 2 weeks of my pregnancy. She felt that the cervix was soft and the baby’s head was engaged. Gowri and her team in the final 2 weeks had kept doing more. Working harder to keep improving my chances of a better birth. Gowri contested the idea that Isis was engaged at all and she could feel that Isis was turning OP like her brother. I had been eating the right foods, wearing the wrap, walking, going to micro-movement classes with Francoise for 6 months and seeing GBM team bi-monthly. In the days leading up to Isis’s arrival I had treatments almost every day. I walked, slept, oiled, stretched and took pills from every continent on earth. I had the most amazing cranio-sacral therapy in water with Gowri, I felt for those moments totally and utterly in tune with Isis in my womb. Francoise also took me into the pool. I know she showed me how to persuade Isis further down my pelvis. When I got out of the pool I was giddy with endorphins, Isis and I were in bliss. Perhaps so much so that in one sense we did not want to let each other go. Isis was 9 days over her due date when it was decided my waters should be broken.

Given Wolfie’s birth there was still part of me prepared to accept that all the preparation may have been in vain. Debbie and Gowri were with me in hospital with a skeptical Ferdy who I think was secretly hoping I would opt for an elective C-section this time around so as to avoid another trauma. After my waters were broken I was told by my obstetrician to go for a walk in the park and come back around 3pm to “review”. I never made it into the park but I would happily have given birth on the traffic island in the middle of the Marylebone road had it not been for Ferdy’s determination that I must at least have our daughter in hospital. I was oblivious to the traffic and almost to the tourists wishing to call me ambulances. I was in the zone. I did not think it possible but I genuinely willed every contraction, I was open to the pain, I was urging Isis out and she in turn was making a safe exit. The fetal heart monitors I was so concerned with during Wolfie’s birth were in the way rather than a reassurance, I knew we were ok. I felt safe. When I felt like the pain was almost over-powering I believed it was temporary and I wished Isis out further. I had been so well prepared by Gowri and her team. I think I remember Francoise saying that the mother needs to find their inner wave when they birth. I absolutely knew what she meant. I still remember the strength of the cranio Gowri gave me as I was pushing Isis out. She arrived at 3pm. In Ferdy’s words, it was “magical”. We watched Andy Murray win Wimbledon and went home that evening.
Gentle Birth Method is familiarised by mothers in the playground as the gluten, wheat, dairy and sugar free pregnancy lifestyle. I was 80% good at staying on that very straight and narrow diet. Wolfie was made out of sugar and all things nice. I gained more than 40kg’s eating the grand diet of Mars bar ice creams and treacle tarts. Isis is yet to taste these treats but I felt much better and more energetic as a result and did not crave nearly as much food while pregnant with Isis as my body seemed to be working so much better to formulate its own energy despite the fact that I was chasing after Wolfie around throughout Isis’s time inside.
Post-natally I was not bed ridden and able to return to spending time with Wolfie very quickly after Isis arrived which has undoubtedly helped reassure him during this time of change. Isis is a calm person, unfazed and unfussy. She has very little colic or digestive discomfort and no breast anxiety. From her birth she has been feeding and sleeping well and I believe this is due to her quick gentle arrival. My stomach shrunk in record time thanks to the wrap, the post-natal bars and the pre-pregnancy diet. I am still living off Gowri’s post-natal Indian takeaways. Gowri’s nut balls get me through the most tiring evening breast feed before supper and the diet suits me so it will probably be in the back of my mind informing my food choices forever even if I relax the rules. Sara and Debbie have been giving me the most amazing massages, which energise me in the day and help me sleep soundly in my (broken) sleep. To be looked after like I was looked after by Gowri and her GBM team was the best investment in our family that I have ever made. I had to dig deeply inside myself to put my unending faith in the method of another person. For it to have worked was, for me, life changing. From the bottom of my heart, I just want to say sincerely thank you.

Sareeta Pattni birth story

I followed the Gentle Birth Method for the nine months of my pregnancy.  It was hard at first to stick to the diet but I managed to stay gluten, sugar and dairy free.

I’m sure this is what really helped me stay healthy throughout and made childbirth peaceful as I had hoped.  We had decided to have a home birth and so being in optimal health was vital to me as going to hospital was not an option!

I visualised a morning birth and our daughter was born on a sunny Saturday morning – her due date!  It was a gentle and peaceful birth.  She came out with her hand on her head, sneezed, looked around and then seven minutes later the rest of her body was born.

 

June 2013

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Melissa’s Birth Story

I began using the Gentle Birth Method about 3 months into my pregnancy and I
believe I had the most amazing birth because of my dedication to this
method. I had a very peaceful water birth at The Family Birth Centre in
Subiaco, I was in labour for 8 hours, spending about 3 hours in the bath
pushing Owen out though it didn't seem that long to me, he weighed 9 pounds
1 ounce, which was a massive surprise as I didn't look that big and having
such a good diet didn't think my baby would be that large, even though he
still came out without any intervention (you have to do the pre
stretching!).

Dilek Birth Story – May 2013

Dear Debbie and Gowri and Françoise & the Gentle Birth Method team, dilek-23

I wanted to announce our baby, Noah Doga Shore’s gentle arrival to the world on 21st May at 7.24am, weight 2.89kg, at our home in water.

We had an amazing birth experience and would like to share it in detail with you.

My waters broke on Saturday, 18 May. I had a few start – stop contractions building up in strength from Saturday to early hours of Tuesday morning at 3.15am. It felt as I wasn’t labouring until Monday evening according to our Midwife.

We had a hospital appointment to have induction on Tuesday morning. It was very stressful few days for me as I was totally devastated with the idea of induction or c-section.

On tuesday morning at 3.15, after taking the second dose of castor oil, I woke up to very strong contractions. And it was it! It got really uncomfortable only in the last 2 hours. Richard only allowed me to go in the pool in the last half hour and the midwife arrived just about that time as well. Noah was born very gently in the pool and the third stage was very smooth.dilek-39

I had minimum bleeding, just a small internal tear that didn’t need any stitching. About 11am on the birthing day, at the second midwife visit for check ups, she said my uterus has already shrunk down to usual 10 days post natal level.  Our midwife was totally amazed with our experience.

After delivery she said to me if I was sure that I have never done this before! She also congratulated me for sticking to my grounds, believing in myself and said that it was a good decision that I decided not to go the hospital.  Following your program had a huge impact in my experience which I would like to tell everybody in detail how.

Thank you for caring..

Best wished from Dilek and Richard and Noah

Sofia Bernardin’s Birth Experience from Paris – December 2012

Dear Dr Motha,

I would like to thank you for giving me the strength and confidence to have a beautiful and natural childbirth.

I am based in Paris and followed your method from afar via The Gentle Birth Method book. I thoroughly enjoyed following the birth method throughout my pregnancy, I was light on my feet, fit and incredibly active until the very last day. However, I felt incredibly insecure when I learned that the hospital in Paris where I was due to give birth (though extremely well-reputed) administered epidurals to 95% of its patients. I was certain that when the day arrived I would not find sufficient support for a natural birth and would eventually give-in to an epidural. Never-the-less, I followed your birth method with great enthusiasm because it made me feel great and because I had never felt so alive, alert, calm and prepared for something in my entire life.

I woke up on November 11th, 2012 knowing that this was the day. I spent my entire day calm and relaxed, even as the contractions strengthened by evening, coming every 3 minutes. At 2.30am I decided that it was time to leave to the hospital and when we arrived I was 7cm dialated. I checked-in and by the time I was installed in the labour room I was at 9cm. My midwife told me that there was still time to administer an epidural if I wanted one. I realised that I felt incredibly prepared and in remarkably little pain and if I made it this far, I was ready to see my baby.

The pushing stage of the labor process took longer than expected, as my contractions slowed down to five minutes apart thus making it very difficult to keep the momentum. I felt myself losing confidence as I saw the midwifes exchanging mildly concerned glances. At this point exhaustion took over; I was convinced that I would never make it and regretted not having taken the epidural. Just as this sense of defeat started to shadow over me, I thought of everything I had learned through the gentle birth method and re-focused my energy positively. Shortly there-after I delivered a beautiful baby boy weighing 3.3 kilos with no need for episiotomy or no tearing.
My son is incredibly zen and calm, reflecting how I feel as a mother and I would like to thank you immensely for this experience.

Best wishes,
Sofia Bernardin
4th December 2012, Paris, France

Heather Barker’s Birth Story – November 2012

My baby was born at home in 4 hours thanks to The Gentle Birth Method. I walked round the garden and even managed to prick out some lettuces in the greenhouse until I was 9cm dilated and then came into the setting room and pushed Oscar out in 4 pushes in a birth pool. I did not tear or even have a stretch mark! I was helping my husband to cook supper 2 hours later.

My midwife (the senior midwife at Dorchester hospital) was amazed and wrote me a lovely letter saying how it had restored her belief in natural home birth and what a lovely experience it had been for her to help bring a healthy, drug free baby into the world.

I hate hospitals and was very nervous when I found out that I was pregnant. Reading Dr Motha’s book gave me control over the birth and took the fear away allowing me to concentrate on the end goal, my beautiful, wonderful little gift from God!

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Wanda’s Birth Story – December 2005

Dear Gowri,

It all went well and my midwife said that she could see how much my perineal massage had helped as I did last stage in 20 minutes which she said was very quick for a first timer! Nothing was traumatic and as a result I’m feeling very relaxed and we’ve got a very relaxed baby. Thank you for the wonderful treatments and moral support throughout. It made everything so much nicer. We’re now just holding up and have pulled the phone cord out of the wall which will annoy everyone!

I hope you’re well and will come and see you soon and show you my bundle. She has the biggest feet the midwife had ever seen so is probably going to be a six foot girl in time!

xx Wanda
Editor at Harper Collins

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Rebecca Malhotra’s Waterbirth Story – November 2008

Josh_Jai_MalhotraBirth of Josh Jai Malhotra

Vital Statistics
Born 26/11/2008 6.28 pm
3.66kg (8lbs 1 ounce)
Standard Vaginal Delivery (H20 – Yay!!!)

early labour started around midnight to 2.20 pm

1st stage 3hrs 30mins
2nd stage 18mins
3rd stage 52mins
Total labour 4 hrs 40 mins (yay)

Contractions started around midnight, I’m a little vague as I popped on Gowri’s relaxation and hypnosis CD and tried to hibernate like a bear through the night. Counting my breaths during the contractions helped me relax and also helped me track my progress – throughout the night the contractions were becoming more frequent, stronger and longer in length. With both CDs on repeat I was in and out of hypnosis all night and at 6 am I woke Sanj (husband and daddy!) so he could arrange childcare for our son. The midwives had told us to go to the hospital when we were having 3 contractions every 5-10 minutes as they were concerned that with baby no. 2 the labour would be much quicker, so we headed off to the hospital at 7.30 am – Sanj also wanted to avoid peak hour traffic. Whilst 12 pm – 7.30 am may sound long, I was drifting in and out of my safe place and was really rather relaxed, energised even though I hadn’t slept deeply. Once in the car things really slowed down, we went for a long walk around the nearby park after checking into the birth centre but not much happened until Lisa (Gentle Birth Method practitioner and lifesaver!) arrived just after 10 am. I was given a fab treatment, giving me a bit of timeout before refocusing. Lisa took control of the reflexology, creative healing massage and homeopathic treatment. Amazing the difference in strength with Lisa’s thumbs pressed on my toes (tenfold stronger, amazing).  Sanj took control of the refueling, feeding me bananas, health bars and water. He took me on the much needed second longer walk to speed things up again. He helped out with the Reflexology and provided constant support physical and emotional throughout the contractions.

Since arriving at the hospital, the contractions had gone from being consistent and building up to being irregular in both frequency and length, which I found hard to get over. I kept regretting our haste to get to the hospital. Lisa was fantastic in getting my mind off it and bringing me back to the task in hand. At one of my low points between 5- 6 pm; I was ready to give up on the birth centre and starting talking about having an epidural upstairs in the labour ward, I felt I had tried my best and hit a wall. Fortunately Lisa suggested we get the midwife to check the dilation and if ok, try the pool. With Sanj and Lisa being as positive as ever at this point I got the much needed boost to give it one last go. The midwife confirmed I was 6 cms but my hind waters had not broken. We decided to have the waters broken then jump in the pool for pain relief. The relief was instant. With the help of Lisa massaging my lower back and the midwife advising me to relax my buttocks, (genius), I felt the head physically move down, a sense of relief and with the next set of contractions, the urge to push. I had gone from 6 cms to 10 cms almost instantly! I had to tell Lisa to stop massaging as it just wasn’t doing it for me any more. So Sanj took over with the gas and air as the crucial tool and both Lisa and Sanj gushed encouragement. Within about 45 mins of my waters being broken baby Josh Jai was born.

I was taken out of the water after a fab long cuddle with Josh, Sanj and tears of  joy. I was awarded Josh after the 2 tiny stitches – meanwhile Josh was having a quick cuddle and skin on skin time with Dad. I was also granted some much awaited toast to have while breastfeeding, (having avoided wheat for so long I was craving just plain toast and butter, white toast too, how naughty!)

Having the baby in the water was magical for me and all those present.

We had used Reflexology, Self  Hypnosis, Creative Healing, gas and air, and a fraction of the time 17 hrs v 4hrs 40mins, largely thanks to the Gentle Birthing method and especially Lisa.

I had just 2 superficial stitches / grazes thanks to Gowri’s stretch technique and my diligent husband who performed this task religiously every evening.

The baby arrived 2 days before my due date; listening to the tape I was adamant this would be the case.

I am happy to say the our baby is very contented and we are very grateful for the amazing birthing experience, not to mention the little miracle that is our boy! Such a positive experience and such a positive start for our new little man. Thank you!!

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Ali Norell’s Home Birth Story – October 2008

ali_norell_littleMy waters started to break on a Thursday evening while out at dinner with some friends, once we got home, the waters had stopped leaking so I decided against calling our doula or midwife in favour of going to bed – I was convinced that nothing would happen for another 12 to 24 hours!

I woke refreshed after a really good night’s sleep and told my husband to go to work as I really didn’t think anything was happening – I didn’t even have any cramps. Wisely, he decided to stay! I decided to run a bath and the minute I got into it I started to feel the contractions, but the bath felt “wrong” at this stage so I got out. From the first until the last, the contractions were consistently 4 minutes apart with a good 3-4 minute break in between, so I told my husband that this couldn’t possibly be anything to get excited about as it would probably be like this for hours until the contractions were closer together.

We called our doula and she arrived within an hour. The contractions were fairly intense, and I was starting to feel like bearing down. I knew that I shouldn’t be doing this too early in case my perineum swelled up. However, our doula was pretty experienced and said we should call the midwife straight away. The contractions were not painful but intense at this point so I asked my husband to attach the TENS machine, which was set at 3.

The community midwife arrived and though she respected my wish to be left completely alone for the duration of my birthing, she asked to perform one vaginal examination. I agreed and to my amazement, I was already at 8 cm – hence my urge to start pushing! At this point I was able to get into the birthing pool, so the TENS machine came off and it felt fantastic to be in the water. Within half an hour I was fully dilated and able to start pushing. The pushing stage was a little longer than we all anticipated as I had foolishly not eaten all day and was getting a little tired by this point, but after some Caullophyllum and a drink of sugar water, I was ready to push for real.

The feeling when our son emerged was surreal and amazing – so empowering. The support of everyone around me had been wonderful, and above all I valued the fact that they had all respected my wishes to birth alone, until the last moment when my husband came to support me. The midwife and doula were quietly in the background.

It was only after I had given birth that I realised that it hadn’t even occurred to me to ask for gas and air – I had completed my birth without any further need for pain relief, I was so “in the zone”. I had simply focussed on the breathing techniques from my regular yoga practice.

Kasper Oliver Rohan weighed in at 8lbs 8oz and was 54cm long with loads of hair. We were left alone as a threesome for some time before my husband cut the cord and I birthed the placenta while he held Kasper skin to skin.

I can honestly say that giving birth was the most beautiful and peaceful experience, and one which I hope to use to help the many women with whom I work as a therapist, healer and birth doula.

Ali Norell MAR, MICHT
Reflexology and Complementary Therapy

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Sally Murray Birth Story

Sally found that being in “another place” was good for her during labour. She had a water-birth and found that the contractions felt entirely different in water.

I started pre-labour at 1 am on Thursday (16th) of August with diarrhoea and crampy pains. I didn’t know it was pre-labour; I really believed it was just diarrhoea, which seems ridiculous now after all that I had read before and there being specific notes written about diarrhoea as being a sign of pre-labour! Looking back I should have realised it was the beginning signs of labour, but I was sure at the time that it wasn’t. I slept until about 8 am after emptying my bowels during the night several times and I still had crampy feelings in the morning, like slight period pains, but continued the day as normal. I went shopping for things to take to the hospital to eat and drink and had lunch at a restaurant. By about 2 pm, the cramps were coming and going, but were still not uncomfortable, though by this time I had realised this probably the beginning of labour.

I went home and lied down at 3.30pm for half an hour and as I got up my waters broke, but it wasn’t a big gush as I had thought it would be, just about a cupful of water. I then saw that the mucous plug had come away when I went to the toilet and the water coming out had some white specks in it, which the midwives told me was vernix from the baby. At that point the contractions started properly, rather than just the earlier period type pain.

From the time the waters had broken, my contractions felt quite strong, coming and going at about 10 minute intervals, and feeling like an acute type of period crampy pain. This was now about 4 pm and I called the hospital and they told me to wait at home and have a bath and to call them at about 7 pm. I moved to some music during the time at home and had a bath, which I found comforting. I went into hospital at 7 pm, and the contractions felt very intense with a lot of pressure on my back passage almost from the beginning. It was this feeling that I was finding was taking the breath out of me, it was the most difficult part of the pain management. My contractions were coming every 2-3 minutes and when I was first examined, they said I was 4 cms dilated. The time seemed to go by in a dream. I hardly spoke and my midwife did not talk to me, I hardly noticed her there, except to see her sitting in a dark corner writing notes, the lights were all dimmed in the room. I seemed to go to ‘another’ place once I had started the contractions back at home and it continued to be that way the whole way through the labour.  I took contraction by contraction without thinking about the next hour or next minute. That was something I did without thinking; it just seemed to be easiest way, to deal with one contraction at a time. My partner was with me during the whole labour, I used him to drape myself over him during the contractions, which was helpful. He was very supportive, he did not speak hardly at all either, except to gee me along a bit at the height of contractions. At one point though, while I was in the pool, I noticed what I thought was a change in the mood of the room and I thought it was because my partner was feeling impatient and a bit concerned. I asked him to leave for a while and to go for a walk; I needed to not be drawn to thinking about the ‘outside’ world because it made it all more difficult. When I asked him afterwards if he had been feeling concerned or impatient at that point, he said he had not, so I don’t know what the change in atmosphere was – maybe I just became more aware of his presence and needed to withdraw again. During the labour, I know that I thought to myself “this is brutal”, several times. That was the word that came to mind during it all. It was as if my body took over completely and I was just an observer to what my body was doing – an observer in a bit of a haze. The ‘brutal’ feeling came because the contractions felt like a racking of my body from inside. It was not so much a feeling of pain (although obviously it was painful!) but it was the physicality of it, actually feeling the body taking over during a contraction, other forces doing their most primal raw job of opening the body to give birth.

After hours of standing and walking and moving my hips in a figure of eight movement, which seemed to help, I asked if it would be a good time to get into the birth pool as I hadn’t thought of it before then.

The midwife said if that’s what I felt like doing then it was a good idea! This was about 10 pm. As soon as I got into the pool, the next contraction was totally different to the ones before and I felt like a fish flopping itself out onto dry land, I literally almost did. It took me completely by surprise – this must have been the beginning of the second stage but I was so taken aback, I called the midwife in and asked if it was normal! Again, after all that I had read before it should not have come as a surprise but it did. It was from this point that my body really seemed to take over. The feeling of the contractions pushing the uterus down from the top was very powerful, and it was amazing to be aware of the body completely taking over and doing its thing! I actually did not let go as much as I should have, I held on to a little bit of fear and surprise which meant that I was not breathing with the contractions very well, so I felt winded. Looking back, it was at this point that I could have really gone with it all and breathed with it and helped my body in its labour efforts but I did fight against it a little which made it a bit harder. I came out of the pool and I squatted to give birth to my daughter, Ella. At the last stages there was some concern because the monitor was showing that her heart rate was slowing down and not recovering properly after each contraction. I knew my midwife was concerned and she called the obstetrician to come and assist; there was an air of slight panic in the room. I couldn’t speak because I was on my ‘other planet’, but I, myself, was not worried because I saw that Ella’s heart rate recovered after each contraction if I breathed into each contraction and not fight it. I watched this happen on the monitor that was monitoring Ella’s heart rate. As I said earlier, I was aware that I was not breathing deeply enough and that I could have relaxed more into it and concentrated on my breathing, so I was not shocked to see it had an effect on the baby and was not worried at all by the concern in the labour room because I felt I knew it was to do with my breathing and it proved to be true as I watched the monitor and concentrated on my breath. Eventually, after a lot of pushing, she came out at 1.21 am. It was a wonderful relief. I was so tired that I could not pick her up and I have the feeling that this was also to do with my breathing not being deep enough in the last couple of hours. My partner held Ella on his chest until I brought her onto the bed to feed her after about 20 minutes.

It is amazing thinking about it again.

Sally Murray

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Rosemary Borthick’s Birth Story

rosemary_cRosemary developed gestational diabetes, which was treated with Creative healing. She worked hard for a good birth following “The Jeyarani Way” Gentle Birth Method and went on to have a home water birth that was a “positive experience”.

At 8.00am on the 19th March I thought I had a ‘show’. I woke up my partner and said I thought something was happening. At 9.00am I phoned the hospital and Gowri. I was getting contractions every 5 minutes. The hospital said that it could well be a false alarm as I was a first time mother and to let them know if there was any change. By 10 am the contractions were every 2 minutes and I also had a slight loss of blood. The pain was intense. I phoned the hospital and Gowri again. The hospital sent an ambulance, but luckily Gowri arrived at the same time and, after examination, confirmed that I was fully dilated. The choice was either to have the baby in the ambulance or at home. So home it was!

I had booked for a home water birth, which the hospital had been reluctant to agree to, because I developed gestational diabetes,(this was treated with Creative Healing on my pancreas from 30 weeks onwards and blood sugars rapidly returned to normal levels), and I was told that the baby could be hypoglycaemic. They also said they might not have enough staff to be able to guarantee a home birth. This was one of the reasons I wanted Gowri to be there as someone I knew and trusted. It became clear that we would not have time to fill up the water pool so I got in the bath. As soon as Gowri got there I felt safe and relaxed. She calmed me with her voice and anticipated my needs and explained what was happening, using visualisation and hypnosis. She also did some reflexology. I used the gas and air from the ambulance, but I mainly bit on the end.

The midwives arrived at 11.15, as did two supervisors, because on the phone they had been told there was blood loss so they were worried. Luckily in the bathroom there was only room for me, Gowri, one midwife and my partner so I had the privacy that I needed.

At 11.45 and a couple of pushes the baby was born. A beautiful healthy 71b 2oz little girl called Poppy. She was not hypoglycaemic and was born very alert, but relaxed. When the midwives left, Gowri performed cranio-sacral massage on the baby and she slept for a long time.

I am pleased that I maintained my desire for a home birth. I am also pleased that the baby was born in water, even if it was the bath, and that the experience was so positive. I am appalled when I listen to many women’s stories of birth.

I worked very hard to achieve a good birth. I had to stick strictly to Gowri’s diet and could have no sugar, (before being pregnant I was a giant bar of whole nut a night girl). I also swam and did yoga, (before being pregnant the most exercise I got was switching the TV channel). Gowri’s treatments including Cranio-Sacral Therapy, Massage, Reflexology, Hypnosis and Visualisation, and Creative Healing definitely helped. I had visualised my baby’s birth and apart from it being a bit quicker than anticipated and 2 days later than it was in my mind, the birth went pretty much as I had visualised.

I had such a positive experience that I am planning my second baby in a few years and I would definitely want Gowri to help me again.

Rosemary Borthick

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Claire Middleton Birth Story

Not all mother’s walk into the hospital backwards but this is what Claire did! This lovely story illustrates the importance of partners during labour – as a companion and support and shows how “distracting” the mother is not always what is required!
I was shopping at lunchtime when I had my show and made my way back to the pub by tube – smiling all the way knowing I was about to start my first labour!

I rang round to find Paul to make himself available to take me to the hospital – he was nowhere to be found. It was the first day of August and hot so I took a stroll up the market to buy a flask to fill with fruit juices to take with me. Now a couple of hours after the “show”, I had prepared myself for going into hospital and sat cross-legged on the carpet waiting to hear from Paul. Suddenly my waters broke and I was laughing my head off! What a mess…. I showered and changed and rang the hospital who said I should come in straight way. Fortunately Paul rang soon after and hot-footed it back to pick me up and the rest of my waters leaked all over his leather upholstery on the way!

We arrived both giggling and my dress saturated and I walked into hospital backwards so no one would see. My contractions were mild and about 10-15 minutes apart at around 5.30pm so they let me get on with it and I pottered about. When they got more intense I ran a bath and go in. Paul was still with me and fell asleep leaning against the door. I was practising my self-hypnosis. But I got so relaxed the contractions felt like they had stopped so I got out (of the bath).

After about 15 minutes they were back with a vengeance and Paul had to leave for a couple of hours so I was alone. I tried my hypnosis again but found it was easier to concentrate whilst I was in the bath and not lying on my back in bed as I was then. I’m ashamed to say I got a bit panicky being on my own and submitted to a pethidine injection. The next few hours were a blur, needless to say, but I came round again about 10pm when Paul was back with his sister. I was glad when he took her back about 11.30 pm when I was practically fully dilated. By now I was trying to cope with the contractions and concentrate on blanking everything else out each time. Paul had his own ideas, however! He thought it would be a good thing for me to try and take my mind off the contractions – apparently, so I wouldn’t feel the pain. A great help! What he didn’t realise was that if I could be allowed to concentrate there really wasn’t that much pain at all!

The midwives told me to push, but I ignored them and just pretended like you suggested. This pacified them for a while but in the end they threatened me with forceps, we said “no” and made them wait – luckily I got the “urge”. Lonàn was born at 1.25am with no cuts, tears or stitches – weighing 6 lb, just right!

Claire Middleton

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Rosie Bray – Birth Story

rosie_cRosie wants to highlight the importance of early conditioning using Self-hypnosis and Visualisation. Starting as early as possible in pregnancy gives you more of a chance to become an expert at the technique for labour. Rosie also feels that she did her homework, following the dietary guidelines, having treatments and so on, so that she was ready for labour.

I started seeing Gowri in my fourth month of pregnancy; I had had an easy first three months, not too much morning sickness and I felt pretty healthy but I lead a stressful life (work-wise) and I wanted to give something back to my baby and my body. Gowri had been recommended to me – by a friend who had had a fantastic birth experience using Self Hypnosis and Meditation. On hearing more about it I became more and more fascinated by it and felt it was something that was right for me and my husband. Too much in life is done without thought and giving birth is not something you do every day of the week so I really wanted to focus on it and give it my 100% and The Jeyarani Way seemed a good way to focus on birth and switch off from the worries and stress of work.

We attended a 4-week class in July – which was still three months away from my due date but it was the best thing I could have done, the longer you have to let the information settle into your brain the better.  This is a form of conditioning and the more time you give yourself the better it is for your confidence and your preparation. I firmly believe that you need to give yourself a good amount of time to understand that you are going to have a baby and that you are in control of your labour, and that it is something to look forward too, rather than fear. Too many people go into childbirth with their eyes closed, in some sort of denial. They fear the ‘pain’ that they believe is involved in labour and so before they have started they have already made it a negative rather than a positive experience and this can have a detrimental effect on your labour.

I found Gowri’s classes very beneficial, and went for top ups in September – I was also listening to her self-hypnosis tapes as often as I could. Plus I was having treatments every other week.

Three days before Louis was born I went to see Gowri; it was a Friday and a full moon. Gowri told me that the baby was ready to come out, and that he would be here in the next few days. I was excited and felt confident and ready for his arrival. I went home and my husband and I spent a really happy weekend preparing our home, we went to the supermarket, we saw friends, we went out for dinner and we lay in and enjoyed each other’s company as we knew our baby was coming soon. On the Sunday night my contractions started; faintly and gradually throughout the early hours of the morning; they were not uncomfortable and I managed eventually to sleep. Monday morning I woke, no more contractions and I wondered if I had imagined it, I got out of bed and noticed that I had my show, then I realised that things had definitely started and I was going to be on my way. I telephoned Gowri and told her and she suggested I come in that afternoon and that she could get things moving a little faster.

My husband and I got to Gowri’s about 4 pm; I still felt fine. Gowri examined me and thought I was 2 cms dilated, she then started working on me, she gave me reflexology, some cranial work and by the time she had finished with some Bowen Technique I was contracting lightly. Charlie drove us home and by the time we reached home I was contracting every 5 minutes for about 20 seconds. This was manageable and we packed our bags and made some dinner; things were moving very quickly by this time and I was definitely in full labour. I was on all fours by this stage, using techniques I had learnt in my yoga classes, I found them very useful, combining this with the breathing we had worked on in self-hypnosis. A couple of hours of contractions passed quickly but not pleasantly. There were moments I thought that it would be easier to go straight to hospital and have an epidural. My husband knew how much I wanted to have a natural birth but without his support and encouragement I would have been tempted to go for the easy option.

We arrived at the hospital at about 10 pm, the Birth Centre at Queen Charlotte’s. A male midwife, Willy, examined me and said that I was already 7-8 cms dilated, which was fantastic I had moved very quickly. Gowri had expected this and had said on leaving her practice, that I would probably be 5 cms by the end of the evening, she had also said the baby would be born at 4 am that morning and that the baby would weigh about 8 lbs 5 oz. The midwife hooked me up to some gas and air, unfortunately the birth pool was not available as it was already in use, so Willy, my midwife and my husband decided to run the bath in the en-suite bathroom so that I could get in that. The bath, the warm water was a great pain relief even though I kept getting out and threatening to go home. The contractions were over pretty quickly and the urge to push followed, I suppressed the urge to push for a while but it got stronger and stronger and within minutes the baby was on its way down the birth canal. The most amazing sensation was being able to feel the top of the baby’s head with my fingers, I could feel the amniotic sac he was in and the top of his head I knew he was so close to being born and it felt incredible. I think that after a maximum of six pushes, the baby’s head crowned and I knew that there was only a few left to go. This was probably the hardest part, I knew his head was bigger than the opening; I did fear tearing but the bodies natural instinct to birth the baby was far greater than my fear and with one more huge primal scream and push his head and shoulders were born. This was a tense moment, as I needed to keep my hips under the water so that the baby would not float to the top. I then had to wait for the next contraction for the rest of the baby to be born. He was born and before I knew it he was in my arms and screaming; he was the most amazing thing I had ever seen and I was overjoyed. I remember seeing the umbilical cord round his neck and panicking, but it was fine but the panic had stopped me from looking what sex he was until my husband told me. My husband cut the cord and held him while I then contracted the placenta.

He was born at 12.10 and weighed 8lbs.9ozs Gowri had got it right!

I feel incredibly lucky that I had a fantastic birth experience and that it is an honour to be a mother and to have given birth. I know that I did my homework and that I worked very hard at the diet, the meditation and the yoga. I re-conditioned myself and my way of thinking over the last 9 months, I believe that one needs to change the tape in our heads – childbirth is associated with pain in modern day and we need to change our way of thinking. To focus on pain is negative and childbirth is the most positive thing I have ever experienced.

Rosie Bray

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Uma Birth Story – July 2001

The empowering birth of Abhisheka using self-hypnosis. This story also illustrates the importance of feeling in control of your surroundings and being able to give your complete attention to the birth.

ABHISHEKA born 13 July 2001

It was three weeks before the due date for the arrival of my second baby. At the end of the self-hypnosis class, when Gowri made a comment about being as ‘relaxed and ready for the birth as Uma’, I was a little surprised, because I was about to start maternity leave and felt I needed another three weeks to chill out before the baby arrived, and I didn’t really feel too relaxed at all, because our household had been through a stressful period of conflict between myself and my mother in law.

But in fact Gowri was right about being ‘ready for the baby’ because I immediately felt rather weird on the journey back to Brixton, and the first contractions I pottered about, packing up the recycling and breathing low into my belly – just as we’d been doing in that evening’s class. To tell you the truth, I felt as if I was still in the trance state that I had been in during the class, because as the contractions grew stronger I simply felt more relaxed and easeful. Everything was perfectly fine, and I was easily slipping into a quiet trance state with every contraction for a couple more hours.

At about 1 am my husband called our midwives, just to let them know things had been ticking along nicely since nine that evening, but that I was still relaxed enough to chat to them on the phone. They were soon round, and by about half past two it seemed as if the baby was ready to be born. But just at that time, our older son woke up with teething pain and cried out for his mummy – on reflection I think we should simply have brought him down, but at the time that’s not what we had planned, and so first of all his uncle went into comfort him, and then my husband went up to be with him for about two hours – and downstairs the whole labouring process magically seemed to slow right down. Until four am the contractions continued, but here was no sign of the baby arriving.

By the time my husband came back down and my brother had finally settled our older son, I was feeling tired and a bit bemused about what was going on. Our wonderful Brierly midwives (a team from King’s College Hospital who specialise in home births) were as bemused as we were about how things had slowed up completely. In retrospect, it seems clear that my concerns for my older son, and the residual stress and anxiety over the conflicts with my mother in law were hindering the progress of labour. In fact, although I didn’t speak at all through the labour, and just kept on with quiet yoga breathing and self-hypnosis, the only words I used at all were a single sentence expressing my vehement feelings about my husband’s mother!

I continued to use the self-hypnosis techniques throughout, and rested well between the contractions, always feeling peaceful and quiet. By six am it was clear that we needed a little more rest, and so we settled down quietly – relaxing with the self hypnosis through the contractions, which were still coming regularly.

After a couple of hour’s rest in this way, the midwives felt that labour had slowed so much that it probably was wise for them to leave, but whilst we still discussing this, my brother took my older son out to the park. The sound of the front door closing, together with the sight of the midwives with their jackets on, ready to leave seemed to re-start the labour immediately. I stood up to say goodbye to the midwives, my waters broke quite explosively and gushed out. So the midwives took their jackets off, sat down and I knelt forwards, holding onto my husband. From that point onwards there were only a few contractions as the baby moved down and out.

The birthing stage was rapid – Abhi’s head was born after only a couple of big contractions, and then his body followed straight out ten seconds later. He weighed eight pounds and four ounces and was in fine health. No tears or grazes – I felt completely comfortable afterwards, and still calm and focused as I had been throughout the labour.

So thank you Gowri for the self-hypnosis – the birthing experience was really empowering – a magical time of quiet and and gentle focus.

Uma

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Carol Johnston Birth Story

After an induction, epidural and forceps delivery of her first baby, Carol was amazed to find that she “enjoyed” giving birth to her second child. Although initially sceptical about self-hypnosis she found it invaluable during labour, and realised that her body and baby know what to do, and there is nothing to fear but fear itself.

EAU BABY!!

You probably won’t believe me, because after the induction – pethedine – epidural – forceps of my first baby two years ago I hadn’t thought it possible either, but I enjoyed giving birth to my second child.

Like every other woman, I’ve heard all the stories, read the books, seen the movies. Like them, I couldn’t believe there could be an alternative: of course childbirth hurts, they’re called labour pains, aren’t they? When I first heard about women in labour using a water pool the best I expected was that it might make the pain tolerable, but after the technological nightmare last time, it seemed worth looking into. The hospital put me in touch with Dr. Motha at the Jeyarani Health Centre and I went along for a consultation, expecting to find the doctor behind a desk and a list of technical specifications on temperature maintenance and sub-aqua monitoring. To my dismay,  I was seated on a cushion and told I was to be given a lesson in ‘self hypnosis’, which didn’t appeal to me at all. However, I soon found that this bore no relationship to my somewhat sinister idea of hypnotism, but is a way of teaching conscious relaxation. ‘Relaxation’ classes are held throughout the country, but there you’re taught to pant, grunt and strain every time the famous ‘urge to push’ comes. This is not only unnecessary but counter-productive, Dr Motha tells her (somewhat sceptical) classes. The uterus is a strong muscle specifically designed for this one job – let it work without tension, let the muscles relax, allow the baby to slip through easily, naturally; do not be afraid for fear leads to pain and pain to fear. We learnt to relax our bodies completely and at will, learnt to think positively and joyfully about the birth of our babies. All very well in theory, I thought, and I must admit all this relaxing has cured my bad back, but pain free labour? I still didn’t really believe it.

When my waters broke at four in the afternoon I was having no contractions but went to the hospital. An evening strapped to the monitoring devices hearing the woman in the other cubicle did nothing to help and by eleven o’clock the doctors decided to send me up to the ante-natal ward for the night and maybe induce me next morning – exactly what I’d been fearing all along.

On my own in the ward, I finally decided to stop fretting and do something positive. I sat in a dark corner and relaxed as we’d been taught, shutting off everything around me and concentrating on letting myself open up, welcoming my baby. By midnight I was being hustled back down the stairs by a nurse who refused to wait for the lift – ‘Hold on, dear, we don’t want you having it up here!’ I’d gone to 6cms dilation in less than an hour, and it was only when I realised that I should call a midwife and started trying to cope with the hospital scene again that it began to hurt. Once left on my own in a delivery room I stood leaning on the bed, which immediately helped – sitting or lying down were excruciating – and started to calm myself down again. My husband and Dr Motha arrived together and I relaxed still further, knowing that they would now deal with the outside world for me. Dr Motha turned down the lights and gave my husband directions on how to set up the pool and, I suspect, strict instructions to be a quiet, supportive but non-interfering presence. I was still a little frightened by the pain I’d felt and my body was trembling with the pressure of standing; the relief getting into the pool was immediate, as the warm water took my weight, soothed me and washed away the sweat. I soon found a rhythm, kneeling in the water, leaning my head on my arms on the side, breathing deeply as each contraction did its work. I concentrated on keeping my muscles soft and loose and opening to help my baby; I could feel each contraction and was aware of the effort my body was making and the effect it was having, but felt no pain.

Between contractions, I enjoyed the water, a smile, a drink; when the ‘urge to push’ came Dr Motha quietly reminded me to just breathe deeply. There was no need to set my teeth and strain; I could feel the baby’s head coming down a little further each time, gently opening his way into the world. If I’d tried to force him, I would have torn myself. At that moment I did feel a sudden sharp pain and thought ‘Ow, must be nearly there…’ I put my hand down to feel how much further I had to go and felt the baby’s head! The next contraction came, caught me unready, I yelled, the baby yelled, my husband yelled, ‘You’ve done it!’ and I was standing up turning round to take my baby from Dr Motha, feeling exulted and quite incredulous that it could all be over so soon, so beautifully. My baby nuzzled me, and smiled.

Later, my husband and Dr Motha left and the midwife went to fetch a wheelchair to take me to the postnatal ward – I could have taken the stairs two at a time but she insisted that I sit down; perhaps she felt that she had to do something other than check the heartbeat and write up the notes. That was when I heard the woman in the next room, shrieking and sobbing in the accepted, expected torture of childbirth.

And I wanted to tell her, there is another way, a way so old that after centuries of innovation, research and drugs testing we’re now having to rediscover it and tell each other a truth so simple is seems incredible – your baby knows what to do and there’s nothing to fear but fear itself Effortlessly, naturally, you gave your baby a body, eyes, a brain, life itself; the same way, you can give birth.

Carol Johnston

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Philippa Egertan Birth Story – July 2000

The positive magical birth of baby Otis during a lunar eclipse, using self-hypnosis and visualisation.

Baby Otis (weight 7lbs 15oz) was born on Sunday, 16th July 2000, at 1.14am during a lunar eclipse.

It was an amazing experience for me, a truly spiritual one. My pre-labour was long; it started at 3 am on Friday morning and then I went into full labour at 3 pm on Saturday afternoon. My contractions were painful early on so I couldn’t sleep, so my obstacle was being tired too early on. The birth unit was empty except for one mother and baby, so my partner and I were able to move around and change scene from time to time. I used a tens machine all along and then was in water for a long time. I actually gave birth squatting outside the pool. It was a very magical night and whilst I was lying in the pool the windows were open and I could seen the moon.

The reason that I got through my birth and it was such a positive magical experience is due, I think,  to your Self-Hypnosis and Visualisation techniques you taught me. All along I recalled my safe place and used by breath constantly and was conscious of everything,  but nothing could touch me or harm me. Your teaching helps every mother to reclaim a positive attitude towards birth, which is often fast disappearing in medical intervention. My baby is very lucky to have had such a good start and journey into the world.

Philippa Egertan

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Judith Shutler Birth Story – 1989

This story illustrates how the programme can help a pregnant mother who then goes on to have a caesarean delivery.

During my pregnancy I followed a programme including Self-hypnosis at the Jeyarani Health Centre.

As the birth approached it became more certain that the delivery would be by elective caesarean due to breech presentation. The hypnosis included dealing with this.

I used self-hypnosis to rehearse the delivery and it kept me calm and co-operative. The epidural was difficult (3 attempts) but I did not feel stressed – the same during the operation. The surgeon said later that she had never had a calmer patient.

Afterwards I was prescribed analgesia but needed none whatsoever and although uncomfortable I was in no pain. On the next day I was walking upright as soon as the drip etc, was removed….. The wound healed so well that the clips were removed earlier than expected and I went home on day 6.

Comments from hospital staff were made about how well I had recovered and that I was the “talk of the hospital”.

Judith Shutler,1989

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Katrina Maclaine Birth Story

Katrina had been told that she would never have children so she was a bit surprised to find that she had become pregnant after some Creative healing for abdominal pain! After being induced she had a c-section but does not regret going on the programme. Like other Jeyarani mothers she has found her son, Ben, to be alert but calm – due perhaps to her connecting to him through the treatments and self-hypnosis and visualisation.

First let me explain the miracle of my son. I’d had gynaecological problems since I was a teenager and a number of operations; however, because of these problems I was always told that I would never be able to have kids. I was also in my late 30’s by the time I met “my man”, who already had children and so I decided that that was it, but I would be the best step-mum that I could be. However, I then came across Creative Healing. Really,  I had it to ease the pain of my polycystic ovaries and endometriosis, but after a couple of “female treatments”,  I became pregnant! To say it was a shock would be an understatement – I was going to be a biological Mummy!

Throughout my pregnancy I had the various treatments – Creative Healing, Reflexology and so on and went on the Self-hypnosis and Visualisation course. I really enjoyed these pampering times and connecting with my baby. To see my stomach bulge with his foot as he stretched his leg was amazing. My gorgeous baby in my tummy!

I was fully prepared for birth, however, he was more than comfortable inside and so I had to be induced. Suddenly being in full-scale labour was a shock to me….I’d hoped for a slow build-up at home, not an induction at hospital. Anyway, I ended up having a c/section. Not what I had wanted originally but necessary – and as Gowri says, sometimes intervention is necessary; it was for me.

But am I still glad that I did the programme? – ABSOLUTELY. It made my pregnancy much easier, made me stop and take some much needed “me” time, made me connect with my partner and my baby more and got me prepared for being a mother. What’s more my baby – Ben, is an absolute joy. From the very beginning he has been alert, curious and yet calm. From the start he hardly ever cried, if he falls over it’s just a kind of, “oops a daisy” and he’s ok. I know that I’m a biased Mum but after speaking to other mother’s who have been on the programme I know now that this is very common for Jeyarani babies. They tend to be very calm and have a kind of serenity around them. By having the therapies and by doing the Self-hypnosis and Visualisation I believe that it helps the baby be really nurtured in the womb, they know that they are really wanted and that they are part of a loving family – just like Ben.

Katrina Maclaine

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Molly Isobel Elliott Birth Story – January 2012

Thank you for all your guidance and care over the past months.
I had a fantastic and completely natural birth at home with an active labour of less than 5 hours and a very quick delivery requiring only a few pushes: She flew out with barely a graze and no tearing at all.

I firmly believe the physical and mental preparation of the gentle birth method is what allowed me to achieve this.

Richard and I were so calm, in fact,  that the midwives didn’t think we were very far along whenever we called and so they missed the birth, Molly was being delivered by a very kind paramedic who arrived just 5 minutes after we called and just in time to catch her!

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Melissa Turner Birth Story – August 2010

melissa_turnerI began using the Gentle Birth Method about 3 months into my pregnancy and I believe I had the most amazing birth because of my dedication to this method.

I had a very peaceful water birth at The Family Birth Centre in Subiaco, I was in labour for 8 hours, spending about 3 hours in the bath pushing Owen out though it didn’t seem that long to me, he weighed 9 pounds 1 ounce, which was a massive surprise as I didn’t look that big and having such a good diet didn’t think my baby would be that large, even though he still came out without any intervention (you have to do the pre stretching!).

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Natalie Hudson Birth Story – September 2009

millaI just wanted to share my great birth story with you and also to give great feedback on GB practioner in Australia, Elizabeth Isaac – she was amazing and you need to get more people trained in Australia as so many women need to have the option to have a good birth.

Milla was born 11 weeks ago on 29.7.09.  My waters broke and I had a show around 2.30am I then went and had a shower and the contractions were irregular but got stronger. I rang the hospital who told me to stay home until the contractions got more regular.

Around 5:30am they started to get more regular.  I texted Elizabeth who instinctively knew that I was going to go into labour that morning – just goes to show the bond you share with your GBP….

I then had a bath and it got more intense so called for my partner to come and help, I then sat on the loo and had my contractions…Elizabeth came to the house around 8:30am and helped me refocus as I started to ask to go to the hospital and for drugs….she reminded me of the work we had done and the breathing and visualisations. She really reassured me that I could do it when I slightly lost focus due to the pain.

We then stayed at home for a few more hours before we decided it was time to go to the hospital around 10:00am, in the car on the way I went into my own transition staying silent and going into my zone. Elizabeth and I had worked weeks before saying my labour would be around 8 hours and that this baby would come before lunchtime – planting the mental seed.

When we got to the labour ward I was 8cm dilated!!! Most of the hard work done at home, my obs then checked me again 20 minutes later and said the baby would come in 20 minutes so to get into position to start pushing.

We again worked with the visuals (I am a yoga teacher so I know the power of visuals or bhvana as we call them in yoga) they were really crucial for my focus and management of pain. I was offered gas and by then said no I thought I would be sick.

My obstetrican then walked in and again examined me and said “Get into position,  this baby is coming in the next 20 minutes”….

So I did, leaning against the bed and then he asked me to push, I think I pushed around 8 times unfortunately I tore a bit but we think that was his doing, as I had plenty of energy and could have taken my time in pushing…..the final push she came out and he pulled her through my legs and I looked down and saw this gorgeous face looking up at me in wonder; she didn’t cry and is such a happy little contented bub at 11 weeks old!!

I am just so grateful to have been introduced to the GBM and also that Elizabeth’s help was just amazing, I hope you can help her train more people with the method in other parts of Australia so they too get to experience the wisdom behind this!!

Natalie Hudson
Sydney, Australia

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Bianca Blackman Duffy Birth Story – January 2009

bianca1Oona’s Birth: Bianca Blackman Duffy gave birth to Oona Blackman Duffy on January 23rd, at 5:35am at home in Malibu, CA.
I was due Wednesday Jan. 21st, so, that day I went to Ventura to have a check-up with my midwife, Karni. She hugged me and said “Happy due date!” She said my baby’s heart rate was great, and that my cervix had effaced, but was not dilated at all. She felt around my tummy to see what position the baby was in, and exclaimed, “Wow, that’s a big head!” which wasn’t exactly what I wanted to hear. I had been following the Gentile Birth Method’s Ayurvedic diet and exercise program throughout my pregnancy to ensure good health and an average size baby. Karni thought the baby was facing my thigh instead of backwards, and encouraged me to spend as much time on all fours as possible.

After my check-up, I went for a wonderful massage with Jaci, whom I had been seeing throughout my pregnancy. She did some special acupressure to try to induce labor. That part was rather uncomfortable. That night, I spent an hour on all fours, and adapted my yoga so I wouldn’t be leaning back at all.

The next day, my husband, Bryce, and I worked at home in the office, and went for a sunset walk on Broad Beach. That night. We watched “Mama Mia”, on all fours for me. It was just before midnight, when we decided to go to bed. I had Abba’s “Super Trooper” stuck in my head, which ended up serving as my anthem. As I got comfy in our bed, I felt a cramp at 12:01 a.m. It was moderately intense but it only lasted about a minute. A few minutes later, I got another one, which lasted a bit longer. By the third cramp, I began to think, “This might be it!”. I tried getting up, but I couldn’t do it during the rush.

When that contraction was over, I hurried to get my rush chart, stopwatch, the phone, Karni’s number, and a labor chart. I timed my next contraction, and it was a minute and 40 seconds, and the contractions were less than two minutes apart. I looked at the labor chart with Bryce, and we were astonished to discover that I was already in active labor!

I called Karni, and she listened to one contraction over the phone. She agreed that I was progressing rather rapidly, so she decided to come over right away. I tried to help Bryce make up the birth bed, and finish fixing up the room, but I had to crawl around in pain. He helped me up onto the bed, and went to set up the birthing tub, put on our special music playlist, and light candles about the house, all while timing and charting my contractions.

Karni arrived about an hour later, and checked my cervix in the birth room at 1:35 a.m. I was 4 cm dilated, and 100% effaced. Bryce had just finished setting the birthing tub set up in the dining room under the Droog chandelier, so I climbed in there. Floating in the warm water took some of the pain away, and it really helped when Bryce squeezed my left ankle during contractions. During my pregnancy, we had gone to a hypno-birthing workshop with Dr. Leclaire in Temescal Park, and I listed to the hypnosis recording almost every day. (Prior to that, I listened to one I had recorded myself with the script from GBM.) When the background music from the Leclaire recording came on during labor, it helped me relax and focus on my breathing instead of the rushes.

Our nurse, Diane, arrived, and took over checking the fetal heart rate. At 1:41 I threw up into a bucket in the birth room. It was quick, and I felt better after. Karni said I was just making room for my baby’s passage. At 2:16, I had my bloody show, which wasn’t much of a show. We never noticed my water breaking, so we assume it happened in the tub.

At 2:36, I was 8 cm dilated and already back in the tub. The fetal heart rate was steady, as it was during the entire delivery. At 2:57, I was 9 ½ cm dilated, and Karni told me I could push whenever I felt the urge to.

An hour later, I was still having a hard time getting the baby down. Karni encouraged me to try the birthing stool to let gravity work in our favor. Bryce wrapped me up in a terry robe, and helped me onto the birthing stool. He sat behind me on the yoga ball, so I could lean against him. I pushed like that for 12 minutes or so, and then moved onto the bed propped up with pillows against the wall in a 45-degree angle. I remember looking at the clock, and thinking my child might be born at the same time as me, 4:24 a.m., but we still had a while to go.

At 4:30, it started raining outside, which sounded wonderful. As I pushed in that position, the head would become visible at the end of each contraction, and then it would go back up during the intervals. We later found out that my daughter didn’t turn, so she was coming down facing my thigh (transverse) instead of my back. After 5 or 6 rushes, I got into a full squat position on the bed, with my arms around Diane and Bryce. We did another handful of contractions like that, and her head finally stayed down.

I was too exhausted to continue in a squat, so I asked to go back in the tub for a water delivery. Karni thought that I would regress in progress, so I was propped up onto the pillows again, this time with Bryce and Diane holding my legs back. I was crowning for at least 14 contractions, where we thought my baby would be born. At 5:35 a.m. on January 23rd, she emerged, all in one final push. She arrived in a transverse position, hence the 2 hour pushing stage. Karni caught her, and quickly handed her to me. I hugged her onto my belly, and she began to cry loudly. The midwives covered her with a warmed towel.

A few minutes later, Bryce asked, “Is it a boy or a girl?” Karni said she didn’t know, so I peaked under the towel. All I could see was her cord, but I answered, “I think it’s a boy!” Bryce took a better look, and we found out she was indeed a beautiful and healthy girl. Her Apgar score was 9.5!

Even though I pushed for a long time, the entire process was under 6 hours.

I delivered the placenta at 5:46 a.m. and Bryce cut the cord at 5:52 a.m. I had a small tear, so Bryce held Oona while I got a few stitches. Just before 7:00 a.m. I nursed her. She latched on easily, but her tiny top lip kept tucking under inside her mouth. She nursed for a good long time, and then Bryce held her while I had a quick shower. The midwives helped me dress, and then gave Oona her check up on our bed. She weighed 7 pounds 13 ounces and measured 20 ½ inches.

Bryce brought me some breakfast, and made his, and the midwives’ coffees. After Oona nursed again, she fell asleep on a sheepskin in our bed, with me beside her. Bryce had to work from home that day, so he didn’t join us in the bed until nighttime. That night, I woke up, and Oona had wiggled over, and snuggled into my chest. That is where she still sleeps today.

So 40 weeks of sacrifice paid off! I followed the diet with about one cheat a week, took the Dhanwantaram pills, Baladi Choornam drink, and a red raspberry leaf and nettle infusion daily. I also did the program’s daily yoga, as well as 20-50 minutes of biking, walking, or hiking 4-5 days a week, meditation, massage, and acupuncture. I gained 28 pounds in 40 weeks and 2 days, and delivered a healthy 7 lb 13 oz baby girl at home in 5 1/2 hours! So thank you!

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Helen James-Moore Birth Story – January 2009

helen-james-mooreLittle Cecilia arrived last Thursday morning at 1.20 am, weighing 8lbs 8oz despite being 2 weeks early.
Once again, following your advice has given me the birth I so longed for with my first baby and got with the second and third.

I have been focusing on the 15th January for 6 months and thus I am sure, combined with reflexology and your advice is,that this is the reason she came on that day.
I went into labour after my yoga class at 9 pm and was in the birthing pools at St Thomas at midnight.
Cecilia was born at 1.20 am without any other pain relief and I did not need stiches for my very tiny tear.

I would like to thank you and your team for providing so much inspiration and positive encouragement throughout my last 2 pregnancies.
I wish that more mothers could benefit from your wise words and avoid the terrible birth experience, the tearing and the consequential despondancy that I went through for my first baby.
I have two of the most uplifting and empowering birth experiences which were all down to following your guidance – thank you so much.

Best wishes for the future
Helen James-Moore

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Karlina’s Birth Story – December 2008

KarlinaTo tell you the truth, I don’t feel like I have a very exciting ‘birth story’ as it flew by so incredibly fast… I feel like I have much more of a ‘Dr. Motha Story’ which means I should probably start with the first time I heard of you.
Several years ago, long before even contemplating having a child, I read an article in W magazine about an Indian doctor based in London who was the absolute birthing guru! Even me, the least ‘clucky’ girl in the world, was impressed! I never gave it another thought until several years down the line, when faced with a completely un-expected pregnancy, I literally googled ‘Indian doctor – pregnancy – London’ and within a few minutes found the article and the contact details for your clinic.

Since I had to wait a while for an appointment with you, I ordered your book to find out what all the hype was about and get a head start. I have to admit that I devoured the book in one day. What a wealth of simple, wholesome, and no-frills information. It did all sound a bit too good to be true, but with nothing to lose I thought I’d give it a try. I immediately started following the dietary guidelines and stuck to them all the way to the very end (except for the odd cappuccino and pastry on the weekends… I do live in Italy after all). The results were instant and unbelievable. Not only did the morning sickness disappear within 12 hours, never to return, but I started to lose weight in all those stubborn trouble spots.

After my first appointment with you,  I was hooked! Armed with my prescribed supplements, yoga dvd, visualisation/relaxation cd, scheduled weekly reflexology appointments and monthly appointments with you, off I went back to Italy to do my homework. The months flew by and I just kept getting fitter and healthier. Rather than feeling like a shapeless, bloated ‘blob’ I was completely toned with a perfect little round bump on the front. Looking back,  I don’t think I’ve ever felt better than in those months!!!! At the beginning of my ninth month I flew to London where I was to give birth and have more frequent visits with you. You had me walking for hours every day right up to the day before giving birth, and I just kept getting stronger and more energetic! My husband still tells people what a hard time he had keeping up with me after walking from a morning at the Tate Modern all the way back to Notting Hill at 38 weeks!!!!!!!

Then comes the part that no-one believes, and when everyone starts begging for your number! At 11:30am on the big day, after spending the morning in bed with your ‘birth rehearsal’ on repeat to keep me focused during my painless yet nauseating contractions, I got up and walked two blocks to the hospital. I was greeted very nonchalantly by a mid-wife who said she’d inspect me, but would most likely send me home as it was obviously too early to admit me. To her absolute surprise, this apparently calm and collected woman in front of her was 8cm dilated! All she could muster was ‘come with me and start getting undressed while you’re  at it!’ I was hurried down the corridor, stripped off, and swiftly plopped into a birthing pool before I could utter a word. Just before 13:00 she pulled me out of the water and 4 pushes later, at 13:02 our little girl was born. Probably the most astonishing thing about my ‘birth experience’ is how calm our little one is! She never even cried while the midwives carried out their tests, and they all said that most babies are bellowing by that point. To this day she remains the most placid and content little girl. I have no idea if it’s thanks to all the reassurance and strength you gave me during pregnancy that was just passed on to her in the womb, or if she’s just an absolute angel by nature. Regardless, EVERYONE who meets her tells me how lucky we are and that we have no idea how good we’ve got it! 

Having been there and done it now, I realise what an unnecessary fuss society makes of pregnancy. Yes,  it is an absolutely joyous and special time, but the majority of pregnant women I’ve ever met face pregnancy as a temporary handicap which serves as an excuse to become lazy, to eat anything and to temporarily put everyday life on pause…the complete opposite of what you advocate for your mothers.

I feel so lucky to have been taken under your wing and so enriched by all the knowledge you’ve shared with me. Thank you for making even the most un-maternal girl’s pregnancy, birth experience and crash landing into parenthood so absolutely amazing. You really are too good to be true!

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Sara Good Birth Story – November 2008

Sara_Good-Lola_GraceI live in Shanghai and am a 33 yr old New Zealander. This was our first pregnancy so along with the normal anticipation and nerves I had the added stress of delivering in a foreign country without family and friends for support. It was at a dinner party I heard great things about your program from another girl in town.

I started following your program at 21 weeks – with the teas, pills, the food diet (it was hard to cut sugar but I allowed myself dark chocolate if I HAD to have something), regular trips to the gym (brisk walking and a light weights programme) and weekly treatments of either a massage, reflexology or accupuncture.

I worked up to 35 weeks, gaining a total of 9 kgs the whole pregnancy and felt fantastic – everyone I spoke to said they wanted to know my secret as I had so much energy and nothing really slowed me down.

I was keen to have a natural birth and avoid using drugs and I explained this to my doctor.

I was due on Fri 31 Oct 2008 and when I arrived for my appointment I was told that I was not one bit dilated and that things did not look like they would happen in the near future. I cried.

The next day at 4pm we went to my husband’s office and I slipped on wet tiles and landed on my bottom.  My waters broke and mucus plug came away. We went to the hospital and they checked the placenta and the baby and monitored me as I was 1cm and having very mild contractions. At 11pm I was allowed to go home and I mananged to sleep fairly well with about 1 contraction per hour that really woke me but I slept again between them.

On Sunday morning I got up and had a shower, washed my hair and packed last minute things as I was having 15min contractions. By 11am,  they were 10 mins apart and regular,  and I was sitting on a ball to get through them as they were quite breathtaking and painful. I felt excited though and was finally going to get to know what this baby was! I wrote down each contraction and focussed on breathing. By 2pm the contractions had been 5mins apart for more than an hour so we rang the doctor and she said to come in. During our taxi ride there I really had to breathe and focus as the contractions went to 2-3 mins apart and it felt like things were moving too fast for me. They checked me at 3pm when we arrived,  and I was still only 1cm and now the contractions were 1-2 mins apart. I was shocked I had not dilated any more and the pain was so strong I did not know how I was going to make it to 10cm! It took me a while to find my groove and get settled but I ended up sitting and leaning into my husband with each contraction. At 5pm they checked me and I had gone from 1cm to 5-6cm in 2hrs which was a huge boost for me. I got in the shower at this stage and within 90mins I was pushing! In the shower I focussed on the opening from the visualisation tape and was standing so felt that gravity played a part in this too. I had the water as hot as it would go and felt this was hugely soothing for the pain. I pushed for 30mins and actually found this part easiest as it was the home run and I knew I was going to see my baby very soon. My husband was cheering me on and telling it had dark hair… our little girl Lola Grace arrived at 7.03pm weighing 7.6lb. I only needed 1 small stitch.

She fed straight away and has been a joy and so easy for these 9 weeks. I recovered so quickly, I lost all the weight except for 2kgs within 3 days and was out walking with her on Day 4. I kept drinking your tea for 6 weeks and felt amazing – in fact I am considering continuing drinking it as I believe it is fantastic.

I now have 3 pregnant friends following your program and cannot speak highly enough about it.

Thank you!
Sarah Good

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Jayne & Darren Gee Birth Story – April 2008

baby_gee_littleDear Gowri,

Just letting you know our little baby boy arrived safely into the world at 22.10 on Thursday 24th April 2008 weighing in at a whopping 9lb 7oz!
In the end I started to have a show in the early hours of the morning on the Thursday (the day I was due to be induced – I was two weeks overdue). I had a show, but no contractions,  hence I was given Prostin at 8am. I began contracting but nothing major, they were about 3 in every 10-15 mins,  not enough to establish labour or much dilation. The registrar decided to let me continue contracting lightly and did not want to give me anymore Prostin. At around 7.30pm,  they were able to break my waters which immediately established labour. 1st stage was 2 hours 30mins, 2nd stage was 5 mins and 3rd stage was 5 mins. I was very lucky as I did not tear just a little bruising.

So it all ended up being quite quick with very little medical intervention, with no time for any pain relief! Your labour kit came in very handy and was administered expertly by Darren,  and as usual he was my rock throughout the whole experience.

I cannot thank you enough for all the support you have given me throughout all my three pregnancies. Your vision for the Gentle Birth Method is truly inspiring and I only wish all women could experience it.

Jayne & Darren Gee xx
Thursday 24th April 2008

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Louise’s Birth Story

louise_cLouise describes her “magical” waterbirth, during which she felt grounded, calm and able to cope. She strongly believes in “The Jeyarani Way” Gentle Birth Method and says that the care that the team gave her helped transform her fears about her own capabilities and gave her the opportunity to realise their dream.

We had an incredibly magical experience. My waters broke at 5.10am and contractions came fast soon after. Laurence drove me to the Hospital…we arrived at 10am contractions coming like tidal waves now, the most intense burning inside but I felt so grounded and calm, able to cope somehow. The sound of the pool filling was so relaxing and after one and a half hours…I was 8cm and so I entered the pool and almost immediately I was pushing holding onto Laurence and floating and Isabella coming so quickly, so fast and there she was after the last explosive volcanic push, gush of energy, she was in my arms. I laughed as Laurence had said, “She’ll fly out” earlier in the pregnancy, but he’d been right. She came into the world calm and clear at 12 noon (7lb 12oz). Thank you.

The following is an extract from a letter that Louise sent to Gowri.

I want to THANK YOU Gowri for everything. You helped me realise my dream and gave me the strength and positivity to deliver Isabella gently and peacefully into the world, with help from the brilliant midwives on the Birth Unit. (Something I was not sure I was capable of.) I strongly believe that the treatments and care you and those who work with you gave, helped transform fears about my own capabilities and cut through and focus on a positive outcome not only for myself but for Isabella and my partner Laurence. (Just to re-cap I had a 5 hour labour without analgesia and delivered Isabella who weighed 7 pounds 12 oz’s in water without tearing. It has been one of the most amazing experiences of my life.)

I felt very nurtured and cared for from the beginning of my pregnancy, which led to a greater sense of peace, well-being and responsibility not only for myself but for the baby growing within. I felt so well and “blooming” as they say, for most of this time, which I really loved and was so special. This was due in part to you.

I can’t thank you enough for your amazing abilities to bring a new awareness to birth, especially when the society we live in is very much geared up to high tech care and monitoring. You inspire and give women like myself the opportunity to realise their dream and in so doing transform fear into light bringing a new joy into the world.

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Pasha Kincai Birth Story

Pasha describes in her own words how her births were “true joy” and totally pain-free using the Jeyarani Method. Pasha had waterbirths.

I have now given birth twice in my life and on both occasions I have felt the most blissful feelings.

Birth for me has been about:

  • Unity with all that is
  • Giving fully
  • Opening, widening
  • Expansion
  • Trusting
  • Transforming fear to love
  • Loving
  • Believing
  • Pushing Out
  • Totality of being
  • Connection with all that is
  • The most wondrous beautiful feelings

“Oh, you must be one of those women that have child-bearing hips or something!” say many women to me.

“No” – I say with absolute conviction. In fact many a practitioner has told me how small my pelvis is and how stiff my sacroiliac and hip joints are having suffered osteoarthritis and various affecting accidents. The other day I was told that I have one of the tightest perineums and vaginal muscles that a very experienced birth practitioner had ever examined.

So what enabled me to have these blissful feelings?

PREPARATION, PREPARATION AND MORE PREPARATION.

With my first child I knew I would have one of those screaming, freaked out, fearful, cursing, laboured births if I did not do something about it.

By chance and pure magic I arrived at the hands of Dr. Gowri Motha and her natural birthing methods.

She prescribed reflexology, massage, swimming, yoga and a series of self-hypnosis classes to prepare for a liberating birth as well as the optional waterbirth, which is known to really aid women in pain relief and to give the baby a much more gentle entry into the world. I went for weekly reflexology, did very little swimming, no yoga and followed the self-hypnosis all the way through along with my partner.

It was a Sunday morning when I awoke with the knowledge that Maya – my firstborn daughter was coming. It was this wonderful sensation of just knowing. Filled with joy I paced around the house beaming, “My baby is coming”. I began to sing, smile and cuddle everybody. I was so happy.

I called Gowri and she came over at about 11am. She examined me – I was 3cm dilated and purring like a fat, happy cat. Gowri talked me through a relaxation process helping me to access the knowledge that I was safe and well, that my body knew exactly what to do, that I would just be opening, slowly and gently ready to give birth at the hospital that afternoon.

Kofi, my husband, went ahead and prepared the birthing pool at the hospital. When I was about 5/6cm dilated, we went in the car to the hospital. I remember pacing around on all fours feeling like a panda in the back of the car – seeing all these mad bring lights and thinking how funny the world was. I felt very primal and instinctively knew that there were not meant to be all of these streetlights around in the world and that there was no real need for me to be going to hospital other than the fact that my birthing pool awaited me there.

Arriving at the hospital, my midwife examined me – “How dilated do you think you are?” she asked. I told her perhaps 6cm or so. She laughed at me and said she would be very surprised – that I looked far too relaxed to be that far dilated!

Well,  to her surprise,  I was 9cm dilated and feeling wonderful. I remember walking across the hall to the toilet and hearing all of these women groaning and shouting as if in agony. I went to Gowri and told her that I must go to them and tell them it’s okay and not to worry.

The hypnosis sessions with Gowri had fully attuned me to the knowledge that women all around the world are able to give birth and intuitively know exactly what to do. That is why birth can be a safe, natural and very joyous experience.

My first daughter was born within eight hours – she was an extremely relaxed baby – only crying when hungry, or on a few occasions she was unwell. Most of her first months were spent arms spread out, palms up, completely relaxed, open and trusting in everything – like an Angel just landed on a fluffy white cloud. No screams, moans, agitation, grizzles, gripes, cramps, fidgets or cries. I feel sure that this was due to such a peaceful entry to the world.

I gave birth to my second child, Joy, five years later. The contractions started at 8am on the day that Maya was due to start school. I stood on the playground smiling and waving at her whilst these powerful waves were pulsing through my body. I got home, went to my bedroom and prowled around the bed and then like a cat I pawed the mattress and rolled around as each contraction came and went. I called Gowri while my husband prepared the pool in the house and the midwives came. Again it was a truly wonderful experience but this time even faster with a precision second stage.

In the birthing pool,  I was rolling around like a dolphin and I had visions of a whale splashing its huge tail into the water. I felt fully energised and yet I totally relaxed between each contraction with Gowri’s gentle encouragement and her wonderful smile. I felt in totally in tune with Gowri and trusted her completely; she was my link, guide and guardian through the birth. Through a mixture of eye contact and telepathy we connected and she would say exactly what I needed to hear at that moment: “Beautiful Pasha, you are doing beautifully – now relax and let go – well done”. “Your baby is coming now”. Gowri’s assistant was sending me Reiki – beaming from a distance like an Angel as Joy arrived. Four women stood over me like a church choir or a flock of Angels just saying, “That’s it,  Pasha,  just two more big pushes now – when you’re ready”. The last two pushes were very focused; one for the head, one for the shoulders. Then I was there relaxing, cuddling my new-born. The birth was full of ease and wonderment. Half an hour later I stood up and coughed and completely let go of the placenta. Wonderful. I was left with the feeling that I can’t wait to have another one!

Gowri held a very understated presence – letting me get on with it. I trusted her and she trusted me.

Pasha Kincai

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Nicky Schinder Birth Story

nicky_childrenAfter a difficult first birth, Nicky came to Gowri and was put on “The Jeyarani Way” Gentle Birth Method programme. This time she felt prepared for birth and went on to have a “wonderful birth experience”. She believes in Gowri and her programme as she is an expert in both conventional and complementary medicine.
Nicky had a difficult first birth; the Birth Unit Manager then referred her to Dr Gowri Motha for her second pregnancy. She received Reflexology, Self-hypnosis and Visualisation classes and she delivered a 10-pound baby in a water pool with no painkillers and with an intact perineum. The total duration of labour was 6 hours.

“This was my second baby. It was the most wonderful birth experience. I felt well prepared this time and it all went according to plan as much as I could have imagined. It was amazing what having your feet massaged can do!”

Nicky went on to have a third child, born in a water birthing pool in her own home. Again, during her third pregnancy, she followed “The Jeyarani Way” Gentle Birth Method.

“Gowri inspires such confidence because she has all round ability and insight. She has crossed the divide between the conventional and the alternative, which makes me feel very secure.”

Nicky Schinder

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Gabby’s Birth Story

gaby_cThis story tells how “The Jeyarani Way” treatments helped during pregnancy. It also shows the effectiveness of the Self-hypnosis and Visualisation audiotape and how it can help during labour. Gabby felt empowered by the birth experience.
My last couple of months of pregnancy were enjoyed and spent looking forward to my weekly sessions of pampering for both me and bump. As expected “Maisy Massey Ritchie” arrived a week late, but when she came she rushed quickly into the world… Contractions came as the text book explained and off we trotted to UCH, only to be disappointingly told I was only 1cm and that I would probably not give birth till the following evening… I hooked myself up to Gowri’s tape (Self-hypnosis and Visualisation audiotape) on my Walkman and 1 bath, 3 hours later, Maisy was ready to “pop” out. My waters broke at about 12.30 and Maisy arrived about 3.30 – 28th August.

Paul would say that my weekly Reflexology/ Creative Healing made me a nicer heavily pregnant person to live with and we would both agree that it made Maisy’s birth exciting and reasonably enjoyable and quick!!

Thank you for all your wise and calming advice – I was surprised at my own body and felt empowered by the whole experience.

I am recommending you to anyone who will listen.

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Dianna Dixon Birth Story

During pregnancy Dianna particularly enjoyed the Self-hypnosis and Visualisation classes and then used the images she had learnt to help her have a pain-relief-free birth. She also acknowledges yoga and the “very reasonable” dietary advice for her successful delivery.

Of my three antenatal classes, I most looked forward to Gowri’s self-hypnosis session for its “relentless positivity”. Each week I’d hear about manageable, joyful labour/delivery and a body fully capable of creating/birthing a child and returning to pre-pregnancy (and better!) form and function. During the actual labour, I often thought of Gowri’s “jelly” image (for internal tissues) or took my mind to its “safe place”, always concentrating on maximum relaxation between contractions. The supplementary yoga and (very reasonable) dietary advice also contributed to a highly successful, pain-relief-free, efficient – and yes, pleasurable, it its way – labour and delivery.

Dianna Dixon

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